I have a lot of girlfriends – half of whom are now married, while the other half of us singletons are either single by choice, in a relationship, suffering in a bad relationship (LOL) or single by circumstance/s (awwwww).
I belong to the last category, single by circumstance, in other words “Walang magkagusto”. Madame kasing may ayaw ng maganda pero pangit ang ugali, LOL. Bwahahahahaha.
So anyway, I have this friend who recently entered into a relationship. She was always my wing girl. We’d go to night-outs together, have midnight snacks together or sometimes we’d just have coffee and people-watch (boy-watch) together. I love hanging out with her because I see myself in her – vivacious, independent, chatty and broad-minded.
She lives her life the way she wants to live it, uncaring of what other people might think or say. I met up with her last week because I wanted her to fill me in on the juicy details of her new lovelife. I noticed something different when I saw her – she was not dolled up and she looked gloomy. She was far from her usual demeanor, highly unlikely for someone who’s just recently snatched a hot beau.
She confided that her new boyfriend just wants her to look low-key. Gone were the cute get-ups, her hair was just tied in a boring bun and she looked uptight. It was like I am in the presence of a stranger. I do not know if I should be happy for her.
Honestly, I loathe people who lose their own personalities when they get into a relationship. It’s like they live their life according to their partner’s approval. I used to be one of them that’s why I feel strongly about it, hehe. (May pinanggagalingan, LOL!) And it’s one of my worst decisions, ever.
Women (and men too) shouldn’t lose their light when they start a new relationship. They shouldn’t lose their own person. If a man is looking for you to mute your music, then he's not the man for you. Please don’t do a disservice to yourself by molding yourself into a totally different person just to please your partner. He must love you for who and what you are – tutu skirt and all.
There’s a big difference between changing for the better and changing just to be accepted.
The Unpure One,